Why Shame is Keeping You Stuck!

Shame is different than guilt.

Guilt is when you did something wrong and you haven’t repented yet. Maybe you have a hard time admitting when you do something wrong because you are afraid of punishment; or because you don’t deeply understand what forgiveness really looks like. Maybe you haven’t experienced the freedom that comes from letting go of something you did wrong.

But Shame…. Shame isn’t that you did something wrong. At its deep, deep core shame tells you that you ARE something wrong. That you are a failure, that you will never do anything right, that you make a mess wherever you turn. That no one could ever love you because you are a mistake.

Shame began in the garden when Adam and Eve discovered that they were naked. It wasn’t the sin of disobedience that made them run and hide from God. It was that they discovered they were naked…. “They were ashamed.”

Did you notice what shame did? It made them hide from God. Today it still does the same. When shame creeps in on its little, slimy tiptoes and begins to dwell in your heart, it makes you run away from God. It never brings you closer to Him, never helps you repent, never helps you know His love and forgiveness.

The same is true for children. If we make them feel ashamed for who they are, they will run from God, and they will run from us. It’s His kindness that leads us to repentance, the Scripture tells us. When we have a heart of kindness and compassion even in the midst of someone else’s mistakes, they will be led closer to us and to the One who can help take it away.

So how do we get free from the slime monster of shame?
First, confess to a friend that you have been feeling shame, let them pray over your heart. Surround yourself with people who will build you up and speak Truth over you.
Choose to speak Scripture over your heart daily, speak life, and shut down the voice of shame whenever it pops up.
Believe that you are wanted and that you are here for a purpose.

If you have been trapped by slimy shame, you can set up a one on one emotional release and spiritual healing session (called “Anointed to Soar) with me so we can get to the root of shame and break the chains it has held over you!
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I thought I was a horrible person...

 
Everything made me so angry inside and I couldn’t stop the screaming rages. I could hear myself say, “Just STOP!” in the middle of a fit, but I was helpless to shut my mouth. I felt like I was watching a different person react, but it was me! After a day of raging I would lay in bed hearing, “You should just shoot yourself, you’re ruining your children,” over and over in my head.

My children were afraid of me, one was cutting, one kept running away. I knew it was my fault, but I couldn’t seem to admit it. I couldn’t handle anymore guilt.


Everything seemed to cause stress, nothing was peaceful, the smallest thing would send me to my room to hide. The asthma I had since I was a little girl, that was so horrible I felt like my lungs were going to explode, was magnified by the stress and rages.

When I knew it couldn’t handle any more, it got worse. I started having miscarriages, I became allergic to everything, I was always wheezing, I had constant headaches, and all I had the energy to do was sleep.

I was sure my situation just needed more prayer, so I prayed and prayed, went to counseling, went through deliverance, but I only ended up feeling even more guilt, because I wasn’t getting better.
Then one day I began to see a connection…. when I’d eat or smell certain things I would lose control afterwards. I noticed a pattern between stressful situations and being too tired to leave my bed. I finally saw that I had been living with severe adrenal fatigue for most of my motherhood. I also realized that I had been deeply wounded by things in my childhood that I didn't even remember clearly.
It was a journey of trial and error, learning exactly what had been poisoning my body and mind every day, but gradually I discovered tools and strategies that helped me make huge strides in calming the drama in my home and heart. I learned to overcome the wounds and trauma, I learned to shut down the lies.
As my adrenals healed and my heart healed from past trauma, the suicide, depression, and asthma disappeared, and energy came back. I didn’t feel trapped inside a rampaging maniac, I felt peaceful for the first time!

I wake up now content about the day to come. I’m not worried that I’ll ruin someone’s life today! In fact, I spend my days helping others find freedom, healing, and JOY!

You are not alone, and you don’t have to feel trapped by your past, by lies you've believed, or even by physical issues like adrenal fatigue! There is a simple path to peace. If you are ready to begin, contact me!
 

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